REJECTION HURTS! BUT WHY SO MUCH? — October 9, 2015

REJECTION HURTS! BUT WHY SO MUCH?

The word “rejection” actually means to “throw something away.” Isn’t it? With that in mind, what is the term for something thrown away? *Trash*! No wonder rejection is such a painful experience! When someone rejects us, it leaves us with a feeling like we are ‘trash’ in their eyes; something of no further value and that leaves us feeling extremely hurt. I mean How could that ‘not’ hurt?

 There are close to seven billion people living on the Earth. Why then does it hurt so badly for us to be rejected by just a few of them within our life-time? Doesn’t it make sense that we would just say, “Oh well, I have billions of others who will love and value me,” and go off seeking someone else to fill the void? That’s the problem…human emotions don’t always make sense. They are not cut and dried like that. As one person said, “Love does not play by the proper rules of moral society”!

   

As we look back on our life, we will realize that many of the times we thought were were being rejected from someone or something we wanted, we were in fact being redirected to someone or something we needed so badly.

Seeing this when we’re in the midst of feeling rejected, however, is quite tough. I know because I’ve been there, every one’s been there!

Negative emotions are a part of life; we will all occasionally experience, for example, disappointment, fear, shame, humiliation and insecurity. Different people cope with these emotions in a variety of ways. Some seek solitude to recover while others prefer the company of others, certain people keep their emotions bottled up while others are open to confess their pain. But rejection is distinct from other negative emotions because of the magnitude of the pain the feeling emits. In addition, feeling rejected often elicits a whole host of other negative emotions. 

Rejection is a necessary medicine, it teaches us how to reject relationships and opportunities that aren’t going to work, so we can find the right ones that will. It doesn’t mean we aren’t good enough, it just means someone else failed to notice what we have to offer. Which means we now have more time to improve outself and explore our options.

  

Will you be bitter for a moment? Absolutely. Hurt? Of course, you’re human. There isn’t a single soul on this planet that doesn’t feel a small fraction of their heart break at the realization of rejection. For a short time afterwards you will ask yourself every question you can think of…

  • What did I do wrong?
  • Why didn’t they care about me?
  • How come?
  • etc.

Don’t forget, it may actually be a blessing that you were let down, thrown out, cast by the way-side or replaced! Perhaps, if you looked deep into your heart, you knew you were in the wrong relationship or that you had ‘lost yourself’, however much you loved that person!

Always remember that much unhappiness is not caused by what happens to you in life but how you react to and deal with what happens to you.

Take control and take action today to overcome your distress. You won’t only survive, you’ll thrive!

F.R.I.E.N.D.S — October 7, 2015

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

When asked, “What is a friend” all of us will have our own interpretation of it. The words used to describe what a friend is might vary between persons but the general consensus is this amazing person who knows everything about you, that will keep all of your secrets, someone that your spirit clicks with immediately ill be ready at a moment’s notice to hurt someone who has hurt you, and will basically love you unconditionally.

Happiness lies not in the multitude of friends, but in the worth and choice!

   
Most of us have one or two friends that we would go to the end of the earth for. Those friends that have proven themselves to us time after time. The ones that if someone dares to look like they are about to say something negative about us; they are ready to say “Don’t go there!” It is all about sharing the good – and sometimes not too good – times together. Friendships like these have taken years of understanding and patience to build. 

  
Almost everyone has at least one such friend, and almost everyone is one. 

Have you ever considered what your life would be like without your friends? 

   
  
When I think about the few special people I have in my life who are always there for me, making me smile, lifting my spirits and giving me hope when I am feeling down, understanding me like no one else and having unconditional love for me I truly feel privileged and blessed!

   
The true essence of friendship is love. It is the characteristics of what the Creator gives to us; love, support, encouragement, and honesty whether we always deserve it or not. Those same characteristics we too should have if we are to follow and immolate the ultimate friend. If we are giving that, how could someone not give that back?

Lucky are the ones who have a set of friends who support them in their hardships and adverties of life! I wish that everyone everywhere is blessed with at least one such friend for life!

  
To sum up I would say that, love the most beautiful feeling in the world is incomplete if it’s not supported by friendship…….

You aren’t fair? Nothing is lost! Being *DUSKY* is way more beautiful! — October 3, 2015

You aren’t fair? Nothing is lost! Being *DUSKY* is way more beautiful!

Beauty, they say, is in the eyes of the beholder. However not everyone is able to appreciate, feel and love the numerous ways beauty presents itself!

Every skin type has its own individuality.
But then again, life’s not fair is it?

First of all, who said a beautiful woman has to be fair? Why can’t she be dark? Does the colour make one look really less beautiful? In India too, despite the supposed setback of possessing a dark complexion, many of our best and most successful models and actresses are decidedly dusky. And all the more beautiful for it, too! Why do people add the adjective ‘dusky’ and call a few ‘dusky beauty?’ Why do they differentiate between dark and fair complexions? Beauty is beauty! If someone says, “You look beautiful”, why add dark to it? Is being called ‘dark’ or ‘dusky’ in anyway discriminating? If a man is ‘tall and dark’, he is perceived to be handsome. But, if a woman is tall and dark, she’s not perceived to be beautiful. Why? Isn’t that strange? The subject of complexion has always been unnecessarily hyped everywhere.

So, now you have tried all the possible fairness solutions from creams to soaps. Has your skin colour changed? Has your confidence level been increased? 

A woman’s beauty or good looks come from who you are and not the colour of your skin. So, throw the fairness creams away and go out! Dare to date a woman who has the same skin tone as you have. Stop being colour blind! Stop ogling at fair women passing you by. Don’t you have better issues in life to care than this? Why don’t you accept yourself for the average looking you are bestowed with? Wear a smile on your face and do one kind deed every day. Of course, it is the sexiest curve that anyone can have.

On a final note, love the skin you’re in and beauty will follow…